Health Can Improve...Prejudice Will Always Be Ugly

I was fat-shamed by a stranger, this afternoon. Typically, I wouldn’t give two shits about what anyone thinks of me, but he blindsided me. What he said hurt me; and it shouldn’t have.
Back story….yesterday, I commented on the health and environmental benefits of going vegan, on one of the Facebook pages I'm a fan of, and had all manner of replies from a few people, which I dealt with; it was a heated exchange of opinions vs. facts. However, nobody has said anything else in that conversation thread, for a while; then, suddenly the fat-shamer shows his ugliness.
Not only did this person insult me, belittle me, and call me out for being overweight (as if my being fat was the sole cause of everything that was wrong with the world); he also used my portion of the thread against me. He twisted everything I had previously said to the others, and made it all about how much I don't deserve to feel that way....because I'm fat.
This was my reply to the attack...
"In case you didn’t notice, my profile picture was taken at Planet Fitness; I am fully aware of my health issues, and my size! That’s why I changed my diet, started exercising, and have lost 50 lbs, so far! And exactly how does my health, or lack thereof, affect your life?? If I’m so difficult to look at, you could’ve just ignored me! I can get healthy; but your ugly attitude will be yours forever!"
Messy hair...don't care! I was busy working!

I also reported the abuse and harassment I endured; hopefully, Facebook will ban him, so he's not able to treat anyone else like that.

Guys, I don't mean to be harsh, but it's really NOT ok to shame anyone, for any reason. If you don't appreciate a certain person, for whatever reason you give yourself; just keep it to yourself. They're not damaging your life, in the slightest; so just....as my youngest daughter would say.....die mad about it!

I wish I had thought to say that to the person who shamed me. My being fat does not impact his life (or anyone else's), on any level; yet he felt obligated to shame me for looking the way I do. And, his hurtful words have impacted my life; I was in a relatively decent mood, until he attacked me. Now, I'm depressed, embarrassed, hurt, and angry. My therapist is definitely going to earn her wages, the next time I see her!

My loves, just be kind to other people; it's really not that difficult!

Human*Kind....be both!



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